Monday, December 31, 2007

My Sister

I wanted to share a little bit about my sister "A".
"A" is 3 years younger than me, but a great person! She is extremely caring and loving, not at all selfish in her ways, would give anybody anything they asked for, even if it was the last thing she owned. She is also EXTREMELY artistic, truth be known, I would LOVE to have something she has painted or drawn hanging in my house! (smile)
But I just found out yesterday that her fiance has told her he doesn't want to marry her. I know she is going through a difficult time, as I went through a relationship that is similar in experience. This guy, "P", well I truly don't care for him very much. Not as a person with my sister anyway. However, I do have a new found respect for him since he has told her this. They do fight and argue a lot, and don't seem to spend very much time together at all. They will go into town (where they both grew up) and stay at his parents house, go out with friends, and "A" will go to my parents house and do her own thing. Now, I'm not insinuating that you HAVE to spend EVERY SINGLE WAKING minute with your special someone, but my hubby would never do that. I believe that because "P" is "A's" first love, that that is something she would like to hang onto, but I also know that when a comment like that is made, it's not necessarily something that was just blurted out with no feeling behind it. It's something that has been dwelling and welling up for awhile, and you have to know that they've 'let go' a long time ago.
Unfortunately, my sister told my mom that she wants to work this out. Honestly, if they COULD work it out, it might actually be a wonderful relationship......but there's one thing my dad told me a long time ago, that has definitely been coming up in my 'Training up to be a P31 Woman', you CANNOT change anyone else. You can only change yourself. And if by chance "That" person wanted to change their self, that would be the only way they would ever change.
I know what she is going through. When my dad gave me that little saying, it was when I was in that relationship that is comparably similar to "A's". And I hated it! I cried and cried when 'we' finally decided the relationship was over and there was no more to work on or try. But I have to tell you, God is SO much bigger than us! He has a plan for our lives and He knows where we are going and where we need to be to proceed!!!! If He hadn't of known that, I would have NEVER moved on, and certainly would have NEVER met my husband when I did!!!!
Sis, you can get through this. I know you have ALWAYS learned from my mistakes, as I have always been one that has to "Do" to learn. But this is one of life's mysteries that you're going to have to figure out on your own. And it will be okay. What doesn't kill you Am, will only make you STRONGER!!!!! I love you! And God loves you! He will help you on this journey! I believe with ALL my heart that He has a greater calling in your life! And He wants to give you your hearts' desires, if you would only allow Him to do so!
"P" was willing to stand up and voice his opinion. He doesn't want to end up like his parents, and that is a noble thing to do. It's time to let go. And let God!
Love you "A"!!!!!!! (hugs)


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